I'm going to step aside from my pride and try to win a guy back. Something I've never tried. What can a girl do to give you guys happiness? Think about girls you've split from whose friendship has soured. How does she get back into your mind? I know it's going to be a slow process to show him we could work in a healthy way. I have rock bottom to start at.

Before you get to the "surprise him naked at his door and suck him off" answers, I don't think that will make him take me seriously. I'm willing to use sexuality, but moreso in the form of a vaguely form-fitting dress that gets him thinking, stand an inch to close too him, draw attention to my mouth. I want suggestions for actions. I want to get back into his daily stream of thoughts. I'm not used to being so nice so this will be a good challenge. I'll also have to learn to hold my tongue when he's a retard. In the words of PJ Harvey, he's not rid of me.

Edit 10 minutes later: Ok, on second thought I want to take the easy crazy girl throw- myself- at- him, beg, rip my clothes off approach. Crawl around in a hard to deny manner.

Edit 2: On third thought, my original point was to not appear mental and that could make him resent me/not see me as girlfriend material. This is going to be hard as fuck.

(P.S. This is an asshole with a sweet side I'm going after. But I'm an asshole too. Time to be sweet!)

You're evil.






There's not enough information about this situation to give you a proper plan, but I can give you some generic info. I call it the game of "S's".

slightly talkative
slightly slutty
slightly complimentary
super sweet
slightly independent (music taste, movie taste, be your own person, but also willing to enjoy some of his tastes, also dissing his taste in a few bands is pretty good)

Most guys are really self involved so drop "mind stickies" pertaining to things they care about. Importance is more important than frequency.

And in the bedroom you have to be a serious ho willing to do just about anything.

That should pretty much hook any guy for awhile.

The game of S's haha. "Music taste, movie taste, be your own person, but also willing to enjoy some of his tastes, also dissing his taste in a few bands is pretty good." Oh, I got that down. He was always into my character. Bedroom, I'm def. not there yet, I don't even hang out with him. Princess syndrome: everything you mentioned, I want him to be doing for ME. See why this is going to be hard? But I need to do it.

I just have to keep telling myself my charisma and patience will lead the way! *vomit*

just try to forget about him and go on

^Two problems, I'm compulsive and overly curious.

curious about what? How to get him to want you? Is he that special? Don't you have several boyfriends?

offer to let him slip it in the brown eye

or buy him action figures

Currently single. Yeah, he's kinda special.

Starting at zero:
Best advantage: He has said I'm the girl he has the best physical chemistry with.
Biggest disadvatange: He thinks I hate him, probably because I told him so."Doh!"

You need to reverse the princess syndrome. It should work. Oh and the bedroom thing is meant to be implemented after the other things work. That's why I put it later on in my reply.

My ex just pulled this trick on me and about a month later (now) she decides that that was a mistake and wants to be just friends once more. I plan to never talk to her again.

That's funny, he was the one that took my anal virginity. He's one of those types that tries to stand his ground. He's not going to just give in to me.

Montana, let's just say I'd be very thankful if he took me back.

Efrim, sorry to hear! Mine's no trick though. I'm a puppy for him. A pathetic puppy.

Very odd to hear coming from you.

if you say that then too bad for you

does he have any reason to want you? is he someone that could get someone else pretty easily?

Even if you do get your way this time, it will eventually end up bad again.





note: my advice about these kinds of things isn't worth much




Thank you for sharing that with us.

I think the best course of action may be something I call "Project:Reminisce", though I may rename it if I've spelled it wrong. The best course of action is to spend small amounts of time with him in non-talking activities (shows, movies, etc.) to be followed by coffee-related activities in which there is only enough time to reminisce about the good times ("Remember when we danced in the ran?"), but not so much time that people start to remember the horrible times ("Do you remember when I told your parents you had a small dick?")

Eventually, you've created a "best-of" version of yourself. However, be forewarned: the downfall of being a hunter is that you're only satisfied with the hunt.

how stubborn is he? it shouldn't be too difficult for you to get something physical out of him with your evil seductiveness.
assuming from above posts that he is stubborn -- if you want something emotional out of him its going to take a much longer time, and while the sex has already happened you're going to grow tired of trying to win the rest of him back. You'll get tired of the game and will eventually move on to something else right around the time he's coming back around, and that'll be something you're not able to repair. have fun!

don't play games. be honest, serious and have some pride of your own. if you tell him what you really think and he still doesn't get it, i say, leave his sorry ass.

ok don't do this

Bring him food. Simple, very effective.

No hay el volver con usted. He explicado que nos acaban. Hecho. Adiós.

Then offer to slip something in HIS brown eye.



You never know....

I don't know where else I can go; Over and over and over and over....

what's the use of any kind of relationship with a person if you will not be honest with him or her?

kmac speaks truth.

Top-notch thread.

I won't take a girl back who's split with me

1 it might happen again and I don't need to go through it twice

2 if I did I would always hold a grudge and it will always be in the back of my mind "this bitch dumped me, why am I with her, she doesn't deserve to have me back"

I've stuck by these rules since I was 18 and have had a good dating history for the last 15 years since

Plenty of time for honesty once you've tricked them into liking you.

You are indeed the fucking Alicia Silverstone.

Don't you prefer Brendan Fraser over this guy?

suck my cock and keep your mouth shut.

can you do that?

I can, but most women can't

I think she's the sorry one.



If he's a real asshole he could just let her go on thinking she's getting her way; he can get her to do whatever, and then ditch her in a way that makes her feel like absolute shit - maybe something that really embarrasses her at the same time.

who is the guy? is it that dude on here that was pestering you with emails that you told me about or is it someone better?

yeah like Nick said this is a good thread. If he is an arsehole best let him be, girls need to get over their bad boy fixation you end up like whitney houston after 10 yrs with bobby brown. but if the pain is worth the excitement and you dont mind being treated like a doormat, go for it. does he have a girl, scratch her eyes out or have someone cut her face and leave a permanent scar. this thing you got with him doesnt need any distractions.

I'll think of the next plan of action and get back to you, this is a delicate situation i need to be serious.

easier said than done.

nah, there's an easy way to do it.


it's called "growing the fuck up."

Fuck You Dr J. It's bad boy 4 life!

you seem like a bad boy with that comment. do you have tattoos and a motorcycle? wanna date?



p.s. I love that you respond to my posts with statements like "grow up" and "what is this, high school?" It makes me feel like less of an old lady. thank you, Dr. Jimmy.

yeah, yeah, now make me some fucking dinner.

I need to learn to be mean to girls. I've known that I should, but it would be an act for me except when I am just in a bad mood. I can lie a little bit, but I don't feel comfortable being really fake.

no you don't. be yourself. if they like you good, but if not, to hell with them. when it comes to relationships we actually prefer nice guys. bad boys are just fun toys for awhile.

I'm sorry, but I just couldn't take any girl seriously if she tried to "win me back". There's reasons we're not together, and they don't just go away.

Oh sure, I might consider havin' a little sex with her (if I was single) - but I wouldn't actually do it. It's just too weird - I'd feel like I was takin' advantage of her misplaced affections just to get myself off.

Bad boys don't wear skin products.

This may not be breaking ground here, but you CAN'T win him back. If he thinks you hate him - because you told him so - then he's going to have that in the back of his mind from now on, no matter what "sex-kitten/i'll be a good little from now on/naughty when you want me to be" routine you can cook up. The evidence you've given us is more than enough to seal the deal. You may want to go crawling (ass-wiggling in just the right way) back to him, but he doesn't want that. Sorry to say, no trick up your sleeve will make you seem desirable for more than about 15 mins.

He's probably right. You should learn to be more careful about saying that to someone. You may think it was just a feeling you had at the time. It would be something that I would always remember, but I am not this guy.




you have to learn to be mean and take adavantage of her "misplaced affections".

Quoted just to put to good use the quoting function.

Yes, that has been quoted many times now. I'm guessing it will end up in someone's signature.


How 'bout these togthor?

Wences, bienvenido de nuevo. Tienes que postarte mas.

¡no lo anime!


Estoy bromeando solamente.

I actually have too much pride to ever let a girl win me back.

I let a girl win me back once. It's kind of cute watching them crawl around, begging for forgiveness. They're like puppies with lipstick. And once you grant them a reprieve, you can get them to do almost anything...until you get bored and discard them.

i think 'winning back' and ' hate' are getting a bad rap here. what is love without hate? what is love if you aren't willing to fight for it? are you fucking people robots or something?

that said....you have GOT to distinguish feelings of love and horndog insanity. if you are just horny right now, this could end bad. if you really love this kat, i say concentrate on one thing to start things off: availability. if measured correctly, you can drive a guy crazy for you not only by being
unavailable, but by doing so in a manner that doesn't allow him to know why you can't be with him, take a call from him, etc.....this is a delicate situation though and abuse could easily result in you losing him for good - so be careful.

the sex kitten thing: i would stay away from this just for a bit. tease him a little, allow him to appreciate the entire package he sees before his eyes (that form fitting dress), tell him you stopped giving head because you think it's disgusting, remind him, and laugh about, that one time he was eating you out while you were hanging and fell out of the passenger car window, remind him of the times when the two of you were a non-sexual, ferocious duo that destroyed someone in a debate and fought crime.
after 3 wks of the above, fuck the holy hell out of him and he's yours until you decide to take out the trash.

p.s.: drop the high maintence princess bullshit for a day or so and take him out instead of him taking you out.